For a lot of people, home is place. It is the house they grew up in on the street where they played in the city that was too fast, too slow, or just right. But for me, home is people. Being the daughter of an Air Force veteran, I’m quite used to moving around and feeling ungrounded, placing my roots in people rather than cities. So when my parents decided to move back to the West Coast, that’s where my home shifted.
I can’t (and don’t) call California home in the way most people do. I didn’t come of age here. I didn’t go to prom here or do any of the things that people associate with home on reminiscent sighs. So I find it odd how comfortable I feel in what is still to me an unfamiliar house with furniture vastly different from what I crawled all over as a child, on a street that is too hot to play in, in a city where I don’t know the roads.
As I write this, irrationally awake while exhaustion tugs on my eyes, I realize that home is also that place where you deposit the things that most matter to you. Those things that you can’t depart with as you shift from house to apartment to townhome to house and back again. Those things that always manage to make it into a duffel bag or a box or a backpack. Those are what make home, home.
So why am I so at ease here? More at ease, even, on this visit than I’ve been in the past? The question pulled at me all day yesterday until I realized that after 4 years of being in this house – my mother finally unpacked her books. When I dropped my bags in the guest bedroom, I was immediately transported back to all those places and all those “homes” that had books for days – our own little library. I did yesterday what I’ve done so many times in the past – I roamed. I dragged my fingers over the spines, I pulled out what I wanted to “check out,” I chuckled as I came across duplicates of titles (evidence that while you can never have too many books, you can have so many that you forget what you’ve already purchased).
Nothing is in order on these shelves, but everything has its place. When Chickenheads Come Home to Roost is nestled in between Race Matters and The Mis-education of the Negro. Octavia Butler’s Parable of the Sower snuggles up to Langston Hughes’ The Return of Simple. E. Lynn Harris makes his appearance here and there in a bevy of self-help books, mental health tomes, and philosophical reflections on race and gender relations in the United States.
How much of my current pursuit – fiction author and “serious” academic scholar – were inspired by this library? How much of my current politics? In this space, the idea that I could be both is no longer abstract.
These are the books of my childhood. These are the books of that ever out of reach “home” that we can never get back to. They represent an idea of place to me. A grounding. Roots that I didn’t know I had. And I am comforted by them in a way that I didn’t realize I needed.